You Can’t Know What You Don’t Know

They came. Ethan, our grandson, brought thirteen college students from Taylor University, ready for a spring break bereft of snow.

They left school during a snowstorm. They were ready for sun and warmth.

They arrived at 3 a.m. Sunday morning, having driven twenty hours through traffic jams, more snow, and mountains. They were ready for rest, and we were prepared to give them space for it.

People have been amazed that we’d choose to have them stay at our home. We’re used to people coming and going. We have grands who come down just to get drinks and treats, so we know what it’s like to be prepared for the needs of the young.

It’s been fun. And more than eye-opening, in a pleasant and gracious way.

What impressed me first was the community these kids have developed with one another. Nobody really knew anyone else before they arrived at college, but Taylor has been known for connecting groups of students, different wings of the guys and girls dorms, to act as brother/sister floors. To do things together and hopefully create relationships that will make transitioning to college fun and less fretful.

It doesn’t always work well. But with this group, it has.

There is a benefit of life friends, people you meet and connect with in meaningful ways who will be part of your life for a long time to come. It’s a pleasant surprise to find people who will care and commit to a relationship long-term.

It’s been so much easier than I’d anticipated.

We left one night for a meeting, and all fourteen were involved in making dinner for themselves, different stations providing different parts of the meal. The thought that blew through my mind was, “I’m gonna have a lot to clean up when I get home.”

We came back to a clean kitchen, everything put away, better than when I’d left it.

Who knew it would be so easy to house so many?

Too often our lack of understanding keeps us from pursuing what could be truly beneficial for us. Fear, the unknown, and previous bad experiences can keep us from trying what could be helpful to us.

The Bible speaks of our knowledge this side of heaven being incomplete. We don’t know what we don’t know. In 1 Corinthians, the penultimate chapter on love, it describes our experience here as incomplete.

“We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.” 1 Corinthians 13:10

People hesitate to pursue knowing God further because they THINK what He may ask of them is more than they can give. They don’t want to be controlled by Someone outside themselves.

That’s not who God is.

He’s a loving Father, a compassionate Savior, a present Help in all that occurs in our lives.

But you have to ask Him to engage Him. He never pushes Himself on anyone.

Choosing to pursue God is better than we can anticipate. Like hosting this amazing group of young people, it has been a remarkable experience for us.

Choosing God is so much better than anything this world can offer.

15 responses to “You Can’t Know What You Don’t Know”

  1. Your words really hit home as I read, “Fear, the unknown, and previous bad experiences can keep us from trying what could be helpful to us.” Those are some emotions I experience as I wonder if I will be able to continue doing what Steve encouraged me to do in collaboration and consulting for the past 4 years, Dayle. Yet, the Lord often uses Oswald Chamber’s writing to remind me that true faith looks to Jesus as the loving Lord with infinite power and wisdom. And when I do, then I release and relax.

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    1. Oh, my friend, the enemy knows how to hurt us, how to undermine us, how to short-circuit any hope we may have. You received a challenge from Steve, who spoke in the hope of the Lord and gave you direction. If God isn’t calling you from that obviously, trust that He’s leaving you there. You have way more value to the Lord than to this outfit. We all do. It’s just that our outfit is loud.


      1. Sometimes I would like to plumb the meaning of ‘loud’, my friend.

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  2. I find you an amazing woman, Dayle, so close to God. My medications interfere with my God connection I once had. Your faith is admirable. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, prayers and feelings.

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    1. You know, El, God gets it. Medication is a bugger when it messes with our minds and thoughts. But He knows–and loves you through it and in it. He has no expectations of you but loves you with all He is. I’m good on good days. Not so good on others. I’m learning to be gracious to my humanity. Love you, my friend,

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      1. My statement that you are a remarkable woman still stands.
        ..on bad days, too. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers and love you, too. 🙏🏽🙏🏽


  3. I think you’re braver than I, my friend. Such a large group of people, young or old. Wow! But you’re so right. We too often allow fear to rob us of rich blessings God wants to give us. How foolish we can be!

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    1. If I’d listened to the nay-sayers, these kids wouldn’t have come, and I wouldn’t have had the chance to meet and share life with them. I’ll admit it’s messy, but the laughter and interactions are so worth it!


  4. Sweet stuff, young lady, friend, fun-loving Grandma….I thought, “you had lots of practice with your open door, open home practice runs at this at CSU all those crazy summers….we miss those, and we miss you!

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    1. Oh, Lar, those times may have been the build-up to this. It’s crazy, but they’re such a great bunch. So respectful and helpful. It would be even better if you came and could be here for a time so we could better persuade you to move here! Still hoping and praying.


    2. Hospitality is fun when the people you invite in are fun–such as you, dear friend.


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    Alice Fredricks

    I can totally picture you and John with a pile of young people in your home and loving it! You truly have the gift of hospitality.

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    1. I learned so much from you, Ali! You’re the hostess with the mostest!


  6. I LOVE IT. Truly such a “Rogers’ place” thing to do….keep the cokes and snacks flowing. Just like CSU. If you build it, they will come. And y’all have spent your lives “building” it. 🙂 Nothing better than having my college kids being home their friends. I imagine it twice the fun when it’s your college grandkid!!

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    1. You’ve got that right. Love the idea–If you build it, they will come! Thanks for your encouragement, my friend.


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