Tip of My Iceberg

They’re so different, but they’re the best of friends. It helps that both of them are rather dramatic, speak hyperbolically, and can laugh at the drop of a hat.

Isley and Talia are friends who have made it a point to know each other well. They talk constantly–there’s an authenticity between them that would put many adults to shame. Even at twelve, they text each other encouragement and concern on any given day.

They’re comfortable with each other in their honesty and vulnerability.

We attended the play, “Holiday Inn”, put on by many of their older friends, including Talia’s sister. I sat next to Isley and was stunned at how well she could project her voice. With every song sung, and every dance moved through, both girls screamed, clapped, hooted, and hollered with glee.

My ears hurt.

What was delightful was how they were engaged fully in their enjoyment, of the play, and of each other’s company.

They are pre-teens, so there is still quite a bit of silliness involved.

I’m always amazed at kids who have the capacity to make lifetime friends, people who actively choose to pursue one another even though distance or circumstances can be problematic. Isley and Talia have known each other since they were tiny and have advanced from play dates to thoughtful–and plentiful–times together.

I know how hard it is to maintain close and genuine friendships. Life gets busy, responsibilities pile up, and expectations drive decisions. I find I excuse my choices too often with my busyness, the “musts” that too often shape my decisions, and perceived responsibilities that have never been voiced.

The Bible speaks often about the value of friendships and the need we have to be connected with others.

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.” 1Peter 4:8

What is honest friendship based on? Respect for one another, compassion, and desiring the best for the other person–no matter what you receive back. That’s the very heart of love.

The world tells us, however, to be focused more on ourselves and our desires than on others. It encourages us to see our value as more important than the value of others. Even with our children, there’s an expectation that they should succeed in all they do. Is it a wonder we’re seeing an increase in entitlement, arrogance, and demands for attention?

Isley and Talia have a deep love and respect for each other; it’s so much a part of who they are. Their friendship flows so naturally.

To be an honest, reliable, and authentic friend is work. It’s a series of decisions to put others first, to love without expecting anything in return, and to give generously of yourself to those you care for.

Not easy. Trust me. I still struggle. A lot.

Experiencing a genuine connection with others?

Worth it.