My baby had a baby.
It wasn’t an easy pregnancy, but Deb was a trooper. Nausea lasted most of the nine months, and when paired with exhaustion, it makes for a dicey duo.
She soldiered on.
They decided not to find out the gender of their baby. In an age of increasingly unique gender reveal parties and experiences, this was a bold move on their part. Friends and family wanted to know what color clothes to get, whether to go feminine or masculine with choices.
Deb worked up to the last few days before delivery before fully focusing on the mom role poised to happen.
Happen it did. At 4:03 Wednesday, March 23, Kollyns Lux entered the world, a beautiful little girl with a head full of dark hair, weighing in at 9 pounds, 14 ounces, 21 1/4 inches long.
People continue to ask Debbie if she had a Cesarean section; the size of the child surprised many.
No C-section. Just bravery.
Kollyns is a little beauty and already has an idea of what she does and doesn’t want. When she’s cozy, she wants to stay that way. She doesn’t want her comfort interrupted by anyone. At the hospital, that was a challenge, because people came in constantly, wanting to test her for this, check her for that.
She let her feelings be known about the disruptions quite well.
This is a massive transition for all of them. Debbie and Taylor have been anticipating this first child with a sense of awe and wonder. Excited for this opportunity, they’d watched friends and family have babies, but this was their first time to experience it for themselves.
Kollyns transitioned from warm, quiet darkness and coziness to bright, loud, cold space. Everything she’d known changed. For Debbie and Taylor, life also has changed.
Transition is a big part of life. Many people can’t abide change; they’re comfortable with what they know, and they don’t want that comfort disrupted. And like Kollyns, they’re quick to let others know they’re not happy about what’s happening. But instead of her plaintive cries to be comforted, people who’ve felt hurt want others to feel their pain. They want any perceived disruption addressed and fixed.
Such life disruptions are rarely satisfied. Too often they lead to further disappointment which can undermine any attitude.
God knows that life is disappointing, in a constant state of change, and not dependable. We can plan and yet have no control over how things will turn out.
The prophet Jeremiah had a grasp on what his focus needed to be.
“Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: The faithful love of the Lord NEVER ends! His mercies never cease. Great is His faithfulness; His mercies begin afresh each morning.” Lamentations 3:21-23
This life is full of transitions, disappointments, and uncontrollable situations. Like Kollyns, we can whine, but we need to receive the comfort offered to us. God provides that comfort, that hope, refreshed every morning to provide all that we need for that day.
Kollyns responds well to love, to being held and comforted by those she knows will love her.
God offers His love without condition. We just need to receive it to find the eternal forgiveness and love He offers.
That’s actually not a hard decision to make.