When Wanting Is Wasted


They couldn’t even wait to change out of their pajamas. The snow was calling; adventures in the chilling outdoors awaited them.

My grands who live in Washington DC had their first big snowfall of the year. Having just been with us here in Florida and 80-degree temperatures, this was a wonderful alternative to swimming and sunshine.

The pictures of them in the snow reminded me of winters when I was growing up in the Chicago area. Walking to school as it snowed, sledding down the hill behind the building after classes ended, building snow forts and snowmen in our front yard. Ice skating for hours on the pond across the street from our home, and returning home with red cheeks and numerous bumps and bruises.

All I could think about was how fun it would be to have a chance to play in the snow. Now. Making new memories.

Wait, what?

I don’t do cold now. Not only do I not own the gear or clothes necessary for handling chilling temperatures, but I also freeze when the thermometer drops into the low 60s.

I do hot and humid really well. I’ve acclimated to Florida’s climate decently enough, so on those days when the temperature is in the upper 90s and the humidity is there as well, I don’t whine about how hot it is.

Well, sometimes. Almost everyone whines about Florida weather at some point.

What I think I want and what I really want are often two different things. I become enchanted by pictures of friends and family on social media and think what they have is so much better than my current reality.

Gratifude is becoming a lost art. Granted, life is a challenge in many ways, and the current pandemic has added layers of difficulty to the troubles that already exist. We expect better, anticipate more, hope for improvement.

There are no guarantees for any of that.

Charlie Macksey, who wrote the book “The Boy, The Mole, The Fox, and The Horse”, states: “The greatest illusion,” said the mole, “is that life should be perfect.”

Life won’t be what we want it to be. People and circumstances will always disappoint us. Expectations will always exceed reality. Not because of a lack of good intentions, but because we live messy lives. Life feels out of control because there’s very little we can control. And yet we treasure what we can’t have or won’t be guaranteed.

Jesus explained that what we treasure is what we desire. That which we feel is most important to us is what we will long for. His response was to redirect what we find valuable.

“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things (that we need for living) will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33

My desires can be fickle; what I long for today may not look as necessary tomorrow.

Seeking after God first, recognizing that He offers what I need for this life and the next, is more than satisfactory.

It’s even better than a perfect snowfall.

4 responses to “When Wanting Is Wasted”

  1. You’re very good at picking out passages that align with stories 🙂


    1. Well, my friend, I’ve read the Book several times, cover to cover. Thanks for your kind words. We are, after all, stories in progress. Yours is fascinating.

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  2. Oh yes, Dayle. You are so right. God offers what we truly need. His vision is perfect, his provision for our every true need never lacking. How good he is!!


    1. And He misses nothing. I love that nothing that concerns me is ever far from His mind. Thanks, Sheila!


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