And Then They Were Married

It hadn’t been planned this way. It wasn’t the dream; it was spontaneous and hurried.

And totally wonderful.

Two sweet friends got married in our backyard Saturday night. The coming together of two people so completely in love and amazingly right for each other that it was a gift to be part of it.

We found out about it at 5:00 Friday night.

The woman had come down with COVID the week before, necessitating the canceling of all their wedding plans, all the providers, and the venue. The guests were informed of the situation, and flights were changed or dropped, trips aborted. The wedding would be postponed, and they’d do a smaller ceremony at some later date.

When you’ve planned on being married, those reversals in plans can be unsettling and disappointing.

Disappointment often leads to creative alternatives.

She got a monoclonal antibody treatment for those who’ve been already immunized. Within a couple of days, she felt better. Being an optimistic and hopeful individual, the natural question was “Why not get married?” Her fiancee was in full agreement.

This was Thursday evening.

Plans were made for my neighbor to host the impromptu ceremony and reception, but Florida weather being what it is, rain was in the forecast. Friday evening we offered to host the wedding in our backyard because we have enough coverage to accommodate those they wanted to invite.

It was amazing to be a part of the communal effort of friends and family to make this a spectacular and joyful experience.

The day had begun with constant showers. As the time for the wedding approached, the rain stopped, and during the vows the sun came out, shining through a break in the clouds.

More than we’d all hoped for.

We were able to celebrate our friends and be with them in this special moment of their commitment to one another.

We were committed to them.

In a world filled with people who are needing help and help isn’t often available, we had a group of people who gathered to make a dream come true.

The Apostle Peter spoke of the commitment we should have for one another.

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. Cheerfully share your home with those who need a meal or a place to stay. God has given each of you a gift from His great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.” 1 Peter 4:8-10

Cheerfully share your home? Show deep love for one another? Those responses take mental, spiritual, and emotional strength, not a place I often am in my own power.

But God.

He gives us the capacity to step outside our comfort zone to love others well, even if it’s inconvenient. He helps us see the needs of others and respond with grace and care. He gives us strength we don’t have on our own.

I saw this in action during the preparations for the wedding. A chance to love on a couple we delight in, to do what wasn’t easy to achieve a communal goal of love and compassion.

Aren’t we all longing for that kind of love?

12 responses to “And Then They Were Married”

  1. Beautiful words and feelings. Thank you for this 💞


    1. Thanks, Andrea. To be able to step into this willing to steward what we’ve been given was a blessing. Not convenient, but so worth it. And I KNOW you get that.

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  2. So thrilled that you were a part of making that happen. Brings me so much joy to see that they were able to get married on Saturday and have a bit of sunshine too. This was a bright spot in my day. Thanks for sharing the joy!


    1. I was grateful to be a part. That it happened was an act of God’s grace and people willing to do what they could. You bring me joy, my friend. Miss seeing you. Really.

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      1. Let’s plan to meet for coffee in the new year. We need to make time for that! 🤍 Love you and praying you have a joyful and meaningful Christmas.


  3. I often wonder if spontaneous events such as this have far more meaning wrapped up in them than planned, staged events where everybody becomes an actor meeting obligations and expectations.


    1. Well said, JB. I think the spontaneity added to the joy and fun, and the memories will reflect that in the years to come. I like the picture of actors meeting obligations and expectations–too many social engagements are exactly that.

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  4. So fun! I’d read about the wedding but didn’t know it was in your garden! So typical of Dayle and John Rogers….servants!!’❤️


    1. Well, Ali, it was a privilege to let this happen–and might I add, this was something I definitely learned from you all. Be stewards of what you have, always. Love you, my friend.


  5. I love this, Dayle. A warm hello. Miss seeing you.


    1. Aw, Jess, it’s been too long! I miss seeing you as well, sweet friend. One other reason heaven will be so amazing–no time limits, no distance problem, no busy work. Have a wonderful holiday.


  6. Ter, let’s make it happen. It’s been too long–I know I need to be more intentional.


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