The Bros Know Best!

Having raised five daughters and a son, I’m well versed in drama, fashion disasters, bad hair days and PMS. My son gets it better than most men.

He, however, feels somewhat redeemed having just had his third son.

Boy families don’t show up the same as families with lots of girls.

Time with the grands in Austin has been filled with dirt, mud and wheeled vehicles–cement trucks, cranes and garbage trucks. Huck and Landry know the difference between an excavator and a backhoe. They patiently explained the distinction with sadness that Nana didn’t understand such things. “Oh, you’re a girl.”

Bed head doesn’t get any cuter.

They show their affection for one another with toughness. One of the current favorites is making boy pancakes–where one tries to flatten the other as they bounce on each other. Racing, pushing, punching (lightly, of course), and making bodily noises all contribute to boy enjoyment.

Fashion polarizes the genders. Where girls often think about how they look, little guys don’t typically care to match clothes. Cars match cars, right? Anything with dinosaurs goes with everything. None of it will stay clean anyway.

“Bonk the Brother” is a fun game that happens when a toy, stick or something equally fearsome is in the hands of one brother and is applied to the body or head of the other. It can be done gently, in fun.

That grin hides a mischievous mind.

Or not.

When one brother is bothered by the other, has had a personal item taken with perceived wrong motives or feels wronged, the blows become rougher. Tougher. Screams of glee become screams of anger.

A referee–Mom or Dad–needs to step in before serious damage is done.

None of this lasts long. Issues exist, but no brother really holds a grudge. There’s too much fun to be had with one another. Within moments, the bros are back to playing, pretending to be dinosaurs and ravaging the countryside–and the kitchen–looking for things to eat.

Family sticks together.

Many don’t appreciate the reality of this, especially when it comes to the family of God. People see those who follow Jesus as hypocrites who can’t agree about anything. Whose constant disagreements have caused rifts in churches for centuries.

Can he be any cuter?

All true.

Back it up a bit. Family of God. Aren’t families, even the most visibly perfect, actually dysfunctional in some ways? Yes. And though we choose to follow Jesus, we’re still living imperfect lives in an imperfect world. And though we don’t agree on everything, one thing binds us together. Like the genetic code that binds families.

A spiritual genetic code, so to speak. The grace of God.

Watching the grands play together reminds me how much they truly love each other. They get on each other’s nerves, but what family doesn’t? Bros back each other up.

Those who follow Jesus, having received His grace and forgiveness, are as different from each other as any other people. What holds us together is Him. Not us. Not what we do or how well we do it. His love binds us together.

Family, this side of heaven, will always be a challenge.

In Jesus, we can overcome those differences in love.

Because He loves us first.

And best.







8 responses to “The Bros Know Best!”

  1. Great post, Dayle. A 3rd boy for your daughter resonates with me. If she has a 4th, we’ll be even. 😉

    Much love to you, S.

    Sandra Auer Sent from my iPhone



    1. She’d love a fourth–but she really wants a girl. My son’s comment–“We may have to adopt. I think I’ve only got boys in me.”


  2. Ha! You captured the unique, very physical world of little boys. I smiled all the way through it. Thanks, Dayle!


    1. Thanks for your encouragement, Kev. Sweet words from you.


  3. Chris Kingsley Avatar
    Chris Kingsley

    Always love your blog, Dale. As a mom of 3 boys (or I should say, 3 men), I’d say you nailed it with this one. When they were young, our object was just to keep them out of the emergency room. 🙂


    1. Isn’t it a hoot to see who and what they are now? All grown up and adult? I love that they know that their “intense bickering” doesn’t lead to long-lasting grudges. Wish I could say that about the family of faith. Thanks for the encouragement, my friend!


  4. Alice Fredricks Avatar
    Alice Fredricks

    So fun and so true of families with boys, as was ours AND our son’s family of 4 boys!!! But down deep they are “for” one another! Dayle, you are SO close in Austin! Wish I could see you or have you visit US! 💕


    1. I know, sweet friend. But Mark and Jillian both worked, so I had the three boys all day–and they were non-stop! (I’m sure you’re thinking now back to when Scott and Mark were little!) It was an awesome time, but I got back late Saturday and wanted to collapse! Wish I could have seen you! Looking forward to when you come!


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