We Three Snarks Of Christmas Are

The closer Christmas gets, the more I default to “do it now or die” mode.

Not exactly portraying the Christmas spirit. But I’d be a heck of an advertisement for the Energizer Bunny.

I found myself daydreaming a few evenings ago. I still had a lot to do before I could consider heading to bed. Waiting for a load of laundry to be put in the dryer; waiting to finish a casserole for a morning meeting the following day; waiting to start the images-1dishwasher until a few dishes in use were ready.


I sat at the table, closing my eyes for just a moment.

And imagined I was being chased by three fat snowmen who didn’t look too happy.

This is Florida, so they were rather drippy and dismal. Their mouths made out of coal were drooping, making them look miserable.

imagesShoulda, Woulda and Coulda. My three Christmas tormenters.

Shoulda was blaming me for not being more efficient with my time. Being lazy and irresponsible because I watched “Elf” with my daughter and son-in-law. Instead of being more productive.

Woulda was whining about all the things he wished I had done–if I hadn’t been gone a week helping my daughter with her new baby. If I’d made a plan that I would have started on a month ago. If I’d have been more proactive and less go-with-the-flow.

Coulda was yelling, urging me to try harder. To not quit while there were still hours left in the day. To push through and finish images-3well. To never say never–even though he was dripping the most.

Snarky, melting faces that  mocked my efforts. Nothing I did was going to be good enough for them.

Then the washing machine buzzed. And the snarkmen receded into the corners of my mind.

I expect a lot of myself. I’m a bit of an achiever. A closet Type A personality. Which sometimes runs amok with my tendency towards adaptability. As easy going as I can be, there are times when I look at the world through snark eyes.

Christmas is one of those seasons.

My three snarky friends love to rain–snow–on my parade.  Shoulda, Woulda and Coulda are jolly and grinning. In the beginning. But as the pressure builds and situations heat up, they become what they really are–a melting mess of images-1complaints and dissatisfaction. Making me feel like what I do can never be what is needed.

This is what the Christmas story is all about. Jesus came into a world full of shouldas, wouldas and couldas. People trying hard to do the right thing. To live good lives. But all of us are bogged down by these tormenters who remind us that we could have done it better.

Jesus came, full of grace and truth. To give us fresh eyes. To see God coming to us, reminding us that He’s always wanted to restore our relationships with Him. To live–and die–for us so we can have life. With Him.

Fresh eyes to see hope. To see past the snarkmen in our lives.

Warm enough to melt the cold hardness of of all our shouldas, wouldas and couldas.









14 responses to “We Three Snarks Of Christmas Are”

  1. Dayle, it’s a good thing JESUS came to give us fresh eyes to SEE GOD coming! HE WANTS TO LIVE and DIE for us, SO we can HAVE LIFE and HOPE!!! Blessings and Love to you both!


    1. Thank you, my friend. May this Christmas find you and Curt in a place of experiencing His sufficiency and joy. You are a true gift to me.


  2. I love this blog! And you. (Do I always say that!?! I know I always smile and think that !😉) I love you. Keep writing. You do life so well…even though life itself, for any of us, resembles a reality show. I guess that’s why they call them that. I love you! (Did I just say that!?!)


    1. Mar, you make my day! I so love and appreciate your words. I love you, too–and I value all that you are as a wonderful friend and woman of God whom I respect and dearly love.


    2. I love that life is a reality show! And everyone is always watching–waiting–wondering what we’ll do and say next that won’t sound right or spiritual or smart. So we move on–whether it’s convenient or not. Whether it feels good or not. And we smile, because God has us totally. I love you, Mar. You are a dear friend and encourager. Thank you for believing in me.


  3. Ok… These are absolutely the best! Great job on melting the those snarky snowmen by getting this post out to inspire all of us doing life better through Jesus working in us and not our circumstances crushing us!


    1. Oh, TM, it’s so good to be reminded that God is bigger than anything or any problem that does enter our lives. Anything. Security in Him is sure–whether I believe it on any given day or not. Love you, friend.


  4. These 3 are chasing me down right now, too, but no time for them, or to ponder their presence. Thanks for sharing your insights!


    1. You know, Tiff, they’re insidious! These three guys catch us when we’re not looking! Thankfully, they aren’t eternal. I appreciate your encouragement, Tiff!


    2. They just are, aren’t they. And will be. But God is better and bigger than snarks–and I can live with that. Thanks, Tiff, for your encouragement.


  5. This is awesome!!! Now I have a picture to put with when I hear those voices!!! Snarky Snowmen Coulda, Shoulda and Woulda! Thanks friend! Shawna


    1. I miss you, kiddo. These guys are ridiculous in their persistence–it could be why they make us angry and laugh at the same time! Merry Christmas!


  6. Such profound truth in silly snowmen! Thanks for convicting deeply and making me smile both at the same time. Merry Christmas to you, dear friend.


    1. Gotta smile with snowmen–even if they are of the mean variety. I think if I take life less seriously and Jesus more seriously I’ll see more of the humor in the stuff around me. Love you, friend.


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