Due to the kind sharing of information, mostly by my husband, I’ve become more aware of an area of my life that can be concerning. At the very least, frustrating.

It’s a malady that is identified by a variety of names and traits. Rabbit trailing. Losing focus. Multi-tasking gone awry. Distracted. Crazy tangents. The inability to stay on task. Conversational inattentiveness.

I can be engaged in conversation, intent and focused. A thought train speeds through my brain, leaving in it’s wake an idea that I absolutely must follow. Mid-sentence, I’m on another topic.

It drives John nuts.

I identify with Doug, the dog from the Disney-Pixar movie, “Up”, who was very focused on what was being asked of him. But if aimgres furry creature crossed his eye path, he’d lose sight of whatever was going on. “Squirrel!” And mentally, he was gone.

Conversations that go here, there and everywhere can cause confusion and frustration for the listener. I’ve seen that look on the face of the person sitting across from me, often without knowing why that look was there. Unless I’m reminded that I’ve hijacked the conversation, I rarely realize I’ve left the trail of talk and have taken it on a whole other tangent.

I don’t think I’m alone in this web of distractability. The eternal presence of media, social and otherwise, and the busyness of life combine to make focus difficult. Trying to blot out ambient noise that can undo me is difficult. If someone is watching TV in the next room and I can hear it, my mind is everywhere else but what I need to be doing. I’ll usually end up wandering in to see what’s on and end up staying till the end of the show.

I think this has something to do with my inability to compartmentalize. To shut out the unnecessary and only let in what needs to be seen or heard.

I have the mind of a five-year-old at the circus. What in the world do you focus on?

There are many things in life that aren’t worth my time or focus. Hanging on to grudges. Being critical of others. Jumping to wrong conclusions because it felt so right when I started. Sometimes I don’t go there intentionally–I happen onto a negative imgresthought and choose to stay there.

Because sometimes the bad just feels good.

Jesus had another way of looking at it. More positive. More encouraging.

“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious–the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.”   Philippians 4:8

I know this is true. I do better when I’m thinking right thoughts. I like the me who encourages others. Who’s positive and hopeful.

Rabbit trails will happen.

The challenge is choosing which Trail you want to follow.

 

 

 

8 responses »

  1. terry morgan says:

    I’m just so very glad that we travel that same special Trail together! Not without detours at times or stumbles along the way, but continuing on (short) shoulder-to-shoulder, encouraging each other to make it to the end. Love you, dear friend!

  2. alice fredricks says:

    Funny how we find it easy to focus on the things that hurt us and are negative and so hard to focus on what others are saying some times! Guess that just reveals how full of SELF we are! “O wretched man/woman that I am, who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God through our Lord Jesus Christ!” Thank you, Dayle, for the way you make spiritual truth so practical! Love you!

    • daylerogers says:

      I find I learn more from humor than just about anything else. God is good that way. My focus needs to be more on the hope side of life. Thanks for the encouragement, my dear Allie. You always encourage me.

  3. Tiffani says:

    No, you are definitely NOT alone in this!!!!

  4. mackeylois says:

    Dayle, I also identify with you and Doug the Dog – it drives Curt crazy, like John. There are many things that don’t deserve my focus, either! I better start chasing Jesus, then I know what Trail I’m following!

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