A Most Excellent Adventure

Loss is something that’s part of life. We lose things, relationships end, and people die.

Being deprived of the presence of those you love and value is the most challenging of losses. Another dear friend has passed away; grief is such an unwanted visitor.

My friend Steve Douglass was an incredible man. When we first met him almost 35 years ago, he was vice president of our organization. He soon moved into the position of president. He was a man with a lot of responsibility, yet his passion was people. His mission was to help others learn of the hope that comes from knowing Jesus personally.

He came up with creative ideas on how to share his faith because he cared deeply for people and couldn’t let a chance go by to help someone for eternity. He never bypassed an opportunity to talk of his love for Jesus, whether with the person next to him on a plane or sitting across from him at Chick-fil-A.

Steve was the ultimate strategist. Having played basketball but never soccer, he nonetheless tackled the job of coach for a soccer team that his daughter and ours played on. His heart of encouragement had him calling every member of his team the night before the game to help them understand what they should be focused on the next day.

Steve never did anything halfway.

He and his wife Judy had always been a couple I wanted to emulate. Their love for each other, their commitment to the strengths of one another, and their hearts to see each other succeed in their particular areas of ministry made them strong and resilient. More powerful together than separately.

They had two daughters and a son, each with their own unique personality and talents. Each of them was a hard worker who learned much from their parents about the value of love and responsibility. Steve embraced his children with passion and encouragement.

To me, Steve was a boss, a mentor, and a friend. He was one of those men full of character and integrity whom I looked up to as an example of living a full and meaningful life. A man not only of great faith but great courage and perseverance.

He didn’t settle for mediocre. He never “just got by”.

We all have an Achilles heel that will be our undoing in this life, and for Steve, it was cancer. But the death of his body is not his end, for Steve’s hope was in what was to come, an eternity in the presence of his God.

The apostle John, as he spoke of his great revelation of the coming of heaven, said,

I heard a loud shout from the throne, saying, “Look, God’s home is now among His people. God Himself will be with them. He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be NO MORE death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” Revelation 21:3-4

My dear friend now awaits those he knew and loved who know Jesus to join him. A reunion that will have no end.

It truly has been Steve’s most excellent adventure.

27 responses to “A Most Excellent Adventure”

  1. As always, beautiful words. I love you …. Jill Monarch Staff Care Specialist – Special Needs 321-695-7443

    Romans 8:28

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    1. Thanks, JB–your words mean so much.

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  2. ((((Hugs))))

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    What an accurate picture of this man of God we all knew and loved! It’s hard to believe he’s gone from us for now! Praise God we will meet again!

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    1. Thanks for those words. I wanted to honor the man I knew and loved, who literally has impacted all of my kids. I’m grateful you saw that.

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  4. What an honor to know this humble servant and to be under his wise leadership. A hero of the faith.

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    1. Absolutely, my friend. A man of incredible character, a hero of the faith, and a friend of the heart.

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  5. Wow, I cannot believe he’s gone. What a wonderful tribute, Dayle.

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    1. You know, Jen, it’s rough seeing people you love well leave. I know heaven will be amazing, but I miss him now.

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  6. My sympathies to you and the many people it sounds like he had touched. You have told us of quite a few losses this year. Those people were special to you and helped make you who you are. And the good news is they still do. Stay strong my friend.

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    1. Thanks, Michael. It has been a year of loss, but I guess that’s to be expected as we get older. It’s teaching me that I really struggle with knowing how to grieve well. I do appreciate your kindness, my friend. You have no idea how much.

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  7. I LOVE that picture, Dayle. Thank you for putting into words how I feel.

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    1. We’ve all lost an amazing friend, my dear. Heaven may be richer for having him there, but we’re missing Steve something fierce.

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      1. So, true!!

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  8. Just when I think there are no words adequate to describe someone and the impact they have had, you somehow manage to come up with them. Beautiful words for an amazing man. Thank you for expressing so well what so many of us want to but fall short in doing. Oh, Dayle…so many losses, so much grief this year. Yes, to be expected more and more as we who remain gain years, but so hard nonetheless. May the memories of the past and our hope for the future comfort you until you see our friends again. Joe and I are praying for you, John and your family. Love you.

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    1. You know, Pen, the loss has been so sudden all the way around. And when you lose suddenly like that, it feels like such a slap in the face, a wake-up call to recognize all of life is precious, and I need to enjoy it while I can.

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  9. OH Dayle–I’m so sad to hear of Steve Douglas’ death. I remember being a college student, on a summer project in San Diego, and Steve came to talk to us students. I really remember that I was in charge of skits for the summer, and we did a skit that night that had Steve laughing so hard, tears were coming out of his eyes. Sending you hugs as you grieve. Praying for you, and praying for his family, and all the Cru staff.

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    1. He was a good friend, an amazing boss, and someone I could genuinely look up to and choose to follow. A man of great faith and faithfulness. We get to celebrate him on November 18–it will be live-streamed. But I’m grateful for the chance to celebrate him here as God is so thoroughly celebrating his homecoming.

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  10. So very sorry for your sudden loss on top of other losses. I think losses of those we love are the hardest things to bear in life. You have paid him a most beautiful tribute… he sounds like an amazing man!! And you have an awesome heart!! God bless you and yours❣️

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    1. Your words are like a balm to my soul, my friend. Thank you for this–I’m learning I’m not very good at grieving. I don’t like sitting in the pain places and dark spaces.

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  11. It is very hard! I have had many losses and worry constantly about my husband. I mean constantly. The more losses you have, the harder it becomes. And the more important our relationship with God becomes. I say that but am struggling with it constantly, ruining the present which is all we really have. From my heart to yours🙏🏽❣️

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    1. Oh, my dear friend, what I’ve had to come to grips with is we have no clue the number of our days–but God does. I know how much you love your husband–it’s so obvious in all you write. But don’t neglect or regret celebrating every day with him. Fear isn’t from God–it’s a weapon used against us by the enemy of our souls. I’m praying for your calmness, a sense of shalom to fill your soul.

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  12. Thank you so much for the advice and prayers, especially the prayers. I battle these fears constantly… have a major mental illness. No excuse though. You are absolutely right and I am touched by your comment. Will try harder to believe and trust and accept the life I have been given and have worked so hard on. Thank you a million times❣️❣️🙏🏽🙏🏽

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    1. You are a true warrior, my friend. And warriors never quit the battle.

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      1. Thank you for that! You are one yourself and it shows. With much gratitude, Ellen🙏🏽❣️

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